Yes, it's possible to have good mental health in high school.
Sounds crazy doesn't it? Well, I'm here to tell you that It's 100% possible, and I'm living proof.
Here's a bit of my story:
Throughout my entire school life, from elementary to even my early stages of high school, I was bullied. My "friends" weren't really my friends, and just used me to get themselves out of trouble, or make me do things I knew were wrong, yet I followed along with them.
Things persisted like this for a very long time until my summer of freshman year. I was going to become a sophomore, but I had enough. Inside my mind, I felt like a timebomb, waiting to explode. I could only contemplate death as that seemed like the optimal choice. Thanks to God, I did not take that action and I am here today.
From then, I've managed to start my own business, have good quality friends, and even get chicks into me. The crazy part is...I'm still in high school!
And yes, you can have this as well. Right now, I'm going to give you actional steps that you can take to significantly improve your high school life. Remember, if you want to change, you must do what is required.
ACTIONABLE STEP 1: Go onto Snapchat and Instagram (Yes I know you have them, don't lie.) and go tell all your friends who you are iffy about that you will be taking some time away from them to focus on yourself.
I know this is hard, and you might get some backlash, but what matters more? Your health or your friends leading you down a hole with them?
Go do that step, and then come back here.
ACTIONABLE STEP 2: Most high schoolers don't have goals, but you and I are different. Create some goals. It doesn't matter what type of goals they are, whether it be money, friends, or good grades. Just set goals for yourself.
Now, create a list of tasks or habits that you can do every single day consistently to help achieve that goal. I know it sounds bizarre and crazy, but trust me, after a month of doing this, you are going to be ahead of everyone else significantly.
ACTIONABLE STEP 3: Now that you have been following your habits for some time, and you are seeing all of the improvements, it's time to get better friends. Your old friends sucked, and now it's time for good ones. Always remember this when trying to become social, "Become the person you wish other people to be."
The best way to gain friends is to become the person you want other people to be. If you want good friends, become a good person. After that, you can then go out and talk to people.
I know being social in high school is hard, especially since everyone has already created their friend groups, but trust me, you are going to be above everyone else.
Don't force it, just be natural. Make a remark on something. If you see something studying hard, just give them a compliment on their studies. If you see someone doing something you are interested in, make a compliment saying that what they are doing is cool. Make sure all your compliments come from the heart. People can tell if you are faking it.
After some time, people will recognize you and start to compliment you back. Remember that this takes time, and you are destined to fail, but failure is the path to success. Instead of feeling sad about your failure, be grateful that you can learn from it.
"Failure is the greatest teacher whilst success is the worst. A man learns everything from his failures and nothing from his successes. That is why success is built upon the failures that led up to it."
ACTIONABLE STEP 4: Now you have friends, you have good habits, but you still don't feel super happy? Don't worry, because there is a key to solving this. Gratitude.
If you truly wanted, you could've skipped all 3 steps and moved on to step 4 to instantly feel better, but I put you through the first 3 so that you have even more things to be grateful for. It's hard to be grateful in hard times, so I have put you in good times so you can truly experience the power of gratitude.
To be grateful is to be thankful. Become grateful for what you have. Start gratitude journaling. This is another habit you can add to your list. Every day, pick up a piece of paper and a pen or pencil, and write three things you are grateful for today, and try and remember those things throughout the day. It's easier if it's an object you see often, so then you can think back to your journal.
And If it's a person you a grateful for, be sure to tell them that. You can make someone's entire week by just doing so.
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